Let’s talk about boundaries.
Whether you recognize it or not we all have our own personal limits.
Have you ever thought to yourself, I really want to give him/her advice, but he/she never takes it?
It’s not because you’re giving "bad” advice, rather the person you are lending it to simply isn’t willing to take it.
They may seem intrigued and you may be giving really sound advice, but if this is happening over and over again, at what point do you draw the line ?
Boundaries for one person can look a lot different for another.
There have been many friendships I’ve been in where I’ve had to recognize what may or may not be affecting me and how.
Contributing to a relationship where the other person constantly takes from you, is draining, you feel me?
If I’m being completely honest, it took me a while to recognize that I am also at fault for allowing boundaries to be crossed.
It can be difficult to draw the line, especially with loved ones, but what would it take for you to do so?
“They really need your advice/help?”
“I need to be there for this person, otherwise they won’t be there for me.”
“If I say no, they’ll never buy from me again.”
While all of these thoughts are completely valid, ask yourself, “what would it look like if I said no?”
When talking with clients, we find that all they really want to do is help.
They want to be there for the people around them and their clients, but the most important person they forget to be there for is themselves.
If even you weren’t there for you what does that look like? What would taking a couple of days off look like for you?
If you’re answering these questions, and you’re starting to feel a little anxious, ask yourself “What about setting a boundary/ drawing a line, makes me feel this way?”
Is it the other person’s response?
Is it confronting the situation?
We find that most of the time, when a client is able to identify what exactly they need that they might not be getting and what they are doing to enable the unwanted behavior from someone else, the person on the receiving end of the boundary is receptive!
Why?
Because they’re human too!
If we aren’t taking care of ourselves, how can we take care of those around us?
A lot of the inner work we do with our clients requires introspection and the courage to answer the difficult questions.
That’s why we do the work that we do!
Let’s answer the difficult questions together, and apply it.
Are you ready to take the next step?